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The Ultimate Guide on How to Get a Better Night’s Sleep

At night, when you sleep, your brain will calm down any unresolved emotion you bring to bed with you from your busy day using a process we call dreaming. This is like an emotional capacity reset button when pressed, you calm down ready to start the new day once again. This is what is said at At Paddle Love. Mothers will often tell their children at night, ‘go to sleep and everything will be better in the morning’.

This emotional capacity model and the daily graph indicate how most of us go through a regular day a day when we are not particularly suffering from any ongoing emotional health condition depression, anxiety and so on.

As we tackle the day, our emotional level floats up and down depending upon who we are interacting with, how confident we are in doing whatever we are doing and how challenged we are.

Think about a day in your past when everything seemed to be in control, then without warning, a crisis happened and your emotional level increased.

At that point, you were perhaps a little harassed, maybe not thinking as clearly as you should have been and perhaps did quite well just to get through the rest of the day. By the time you were ready for bed, you probably felt pretty exhausted.

After you waken the following morning, all that emotional stress you took to bed with you has gone as if by magic. You are much calmer, can think clearly and look back on the events of the past day with an objectivity which was simply not possible when you were in the middle of it.

Your mind had emotionally reset, allowing you access to the clever parts of the brain once again. Now let’s consider what happens if the dreaming process breaks down?  

The unresolved emotion from the previous day is not calmed down and will still be present in the morning. When this happens, you will be aware of it as you may be tense, irritable, tired or feeling ‘off’ in some other way.

You probably are aware that you are not at your best, but will perhaps write it off as just having had a poor nights sleep. If your dreaming process works well the next night, you will reset your emotional state to zero and start the next day once more in good shape. We can all cope with a bad day or two, here and there.

But if it doesn’t work well again….you continue to build up an uncomfortable base level of emotion upon which your normal day sits. You will likely spend more and more of the day in the amber and red zones where you will be unlikely to perform to your best capability.

At night, when you sleep, your brain will calm down any unresolved emotion you bring to bed with you from your busy day using a process we call dreaming. This is like an emotional capacity reset button when pressed, you calm down ready to start the new day once again.

Mothers will often tell their children at night, ‘go to sleep and everything will be better in the morning’. This emotional capacity model and the daily graph indicate how most of us go through a regular day a day when we are not particularly suffering from any ongoing emotional health condition depression, anxiety and so on.

As we tackle the day, our emotional level floats up and down depending upon who we are interacting with, how confident we are in doing whatever we are doing and how challenged we are. Think about a day in your past when everything seemed to be in control, then without warning, a crisis happened and your emotional level increased.

At that point, you were perhaps a little harassed, maybe not thinking as clearly as you should have been and perhaps did quite well just to get through the rest of the day. By the time you were ready for bed, you probably felt pretty exhausted.

After you wake up the following morning, all that emotional stress you took to bed with you has gone as if by magic.

You are much calmer, can think clearly and look back on the events of the past day with an objectivity which was simply not possible when you were in the middle of it. Your mind had emotionally reset, allowing you access to the clever parts of the brain once again. Now let’s consider what happens if the dreaming process breaks down?  

The unresolved emotion from the previous day is not calmed down and will still be present in the morning. When this happens, you will be aware of it as you may be tense, irritable, tired or feeling ‘off’ in some other way.

You probably are aware that you are not at your best, but will perhaps write it off as just having had a poor nights sleep. If your dreaming process works well the next night, you will reset your emotional state to zero and start the next day once more in good shape. We can all cope with a bad day or two, here and there.

But if it doesn’t work well again….you continue to build up an uncomfortable base level of emotion upon which your normal day sits.

You will likely spend more and more of the day in the amber and red zones where you will be unlikely to perform to your best capability.